I realize that this article just might become one the many in the sea of self-help articles on the internet. I also realize that many would just skip or not read it completely. Maybe my words would help you or maybe not. But I hope you give it a go.
In the long run, many people lose the motivation and enthusiasm for things. It is very common. There are times when we lose that “spark” in life and sit on one’s hand. We don’t want to work. The thing might be very important to us, but, we just don’t want to move towards it. It has happened to so many people around me and including myself. We all have a dream job. We want it so badly, we fight for it but then, after some time, we just kiss it goodbye. It also happens to people who actually have your dream job. Anyone can lose motivation to keep on going. But, why do we do this? Why do we stop doing something which is actually good for us? Why do we want to have regrets? Why do we lose the motivation to keep up with our promises? Majority of resolutions that people make during the new year and generally, are doomed to fail. Don’t be frustrated or disheartened because of these situations. Let’s talk about how to actually act on what you want.
We are told to dream big. So, we make our resolutions bigger. Our expectations of ourselves are exorbitant. We want to achieve things which are very unlikely to happen. I’m not asking you to stop having expectations. Have small expectations. Slowly build your way up. Question yourself on why you are doing what you are doing. We wake up and usually follow a routine. You might go to school every day or work. A lot of students or people usually end up hating this routine. One very important reason for this is the fact that they have forgotten why they are following it in the first place. Always remind yourself why you must keep going on. Another thing that I’ve noticed is that a lot us usually procrastinate. We don’t start working immediately. We wait for that moment of motivation to hit us. I always wanted to write but never picked up the pen because I waited for the motivation to strike. I never wrote until I felt “very” motivated. After many mistakes like this, I’ve realized that the most important step to staying motivated is to take action. Just start somewhere it doesn’t have to be big. Don’t sit idle. Being idle will slowly but surely make us feel comfortable with doing nothing. You don’t want that. Don’t wait for a “sign” to change. Don’t wait for an article like this to tell you why you should be motivated. Tell yourself why you want to keep moving. No one knows why and what you want better than you.
As I’ve said before, sometimes people make unrealistic goals or have too many expectations. Have big goals for the long run but don’t forget that there are so many little things to do on the way. Don’t expect the change immediately. There is a reason why my parents taught me why to tackle everyday as it comes. I never used to listen, but as I’m growing up, I can see why they told me so. Sometimes envisioning the future too much may make us feel that it’s hard to keep moving on. We have so much to do but just the sheer amount of work for it overwhelms us. So, we don’t do anything. Carrying out little actions everyday can help us keep our motivation and it is less stressful. Also, try to experience new situations every day. It is possible to get bored because of our routines. The comfort of familiar situations makes us okay with being bored but not getting out of our comfort zone. Take baby steps. Put yourself in a situation you’ve never been before and gradually you will notice that things are happening. Going out of our routines and performing a difficult task is usually the highlight of our days. Let this feeling be something you want to experience every day.
Motivation is in us. Sometimes we just forget to ask ourselves why we even bother moving. Don’t expect changes immediately and learn to take everyday day it comes. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Have patience, determination and be willing to make mistakes, but jump back on.